Helllo my BlogFam! Hope you are doing great? Please can someone tell me where 2019 is flying to? How is it March already?!?!?! How?? Anyway, without further ado, let me quickly go straight to today’s gist!

On my flight back home yesterday, I was pleasantly surprised when I found out that we had an all-female crew!! I was super excited and sent messages out to my peeps when I found out. I even planned to put it on the ‘gram as soon as I landed because I wasn’t going to miss out on a photo with the crew once we touched down. *groupie alert*

Ayeeeeee!!! The joy of getting a photo with my crushes!

All my plans temporarily flew out of the window as soon as we started cruising. Pause. Am I the only one who imagines how it would feel to have the windows of an airplane in motion actually open? *covers face* After I experienced an open door in an aircraft when I went skydiving, I stopped having such vain imaginations😂😂😂. I digress o!

The exact moment I decided I did not need open windows on my flights, lol

Anyway, as we ‘gberaed’ and entered the clouds, the plane started shaking small small. To be honest, it was nothing out of the ordinary – typical shaking that happens when there are lots of clouds. But you know what thought came into my mind? I’m a bit ashamed to admit it but my first thought (before I banished it with Holy Ghost Fire) was ‘Heeeey God, could this plane be shaking like this because a woman is flying it?’ Can you imagine me (a woman) thinking that kind of thought? A whole woman like the pilot! A whole woman who is a professional spending time serving clients in male-dominated industries and constantly trying to break stereotypes. A woman who is committed to supporting other women on their journeys and continuously advocating for gender parity – because our intellectual brains are the same. A whole me was thinking such a sexist thought! Can you just imagine?

Imagine that! SMH

I caught myself immediately and as always, I tried to understand WHY I even thought that thought in the first place (that’s a tongue twister right there!). Simply put, I dug in deeper to understand why such a thought crossed my mind. I think it’s because as humans, we have 2 thinking systems. There’s the base one (System 1) and the more sophisticated one (System 2). There is a ton of research on this but essentially, System 1 is the one that kicks in when there’s danger – that’s the one in charge when the plane started shaking small and my alarm bells started ringing. I would have said it’s the thinking system controlled by our ‘animalistic’ brain but me I was created in the image of Jesus and I have the mind of Christ – Amen!! Anyway, you get the point.

System 1 – 😂😂😂

System 2 is the more calculating, conscious system that you use when you are solving a difficult math problem or thinking carefully about a philosophical problem. See Exhibit below, hahahaha

System 2 – this is my philosophical face ( Tbh, I think I have just been looking for an excuse to put up this photo, hehe)

I caught myself and started thinking about all the times I had been flown by male pilots and the planes ‘shook’ me to my core. Why didn’t the gender of the pilot matter to me in those moments? I believe this speaks to how easily unconscious bias can creep up on us, even the most ‘woke’ of us, if we are not mindful. We must deliberately and consciously choose to reprogram our minds every day. I guess it takes time to undo years of social conditioning, but we serve an Able God! Shower your blessings…Oh sorry, I almost got carried away, lol.

Able God, shower Your blessings!!!!!

So this is my challenge to you – next time your System 1 takes over and you’re tempted to think or say ‘na woman naa’ when something unpleasant happens (e.g., crazy Lagos driving episodes or office shenanigans), stop, flip it around and think of all the men who have done the same thing without you judging them. Then forgive yourself and reach out to some of the women in your life to celebrate how awesome they are.

I forgave myself and still got my photo with the fantastic crew – our landing was so smooth! (p.s my eyebrows are the least fleekiest, lol)

On this International Women’s Day, I celebrate all the amazing women actively in my life and all the incredible women around me who break stereotypes every day and continue to reach for the stars. I celebrate US!!! Happy International Women’s Day!!!

*pours La Casera into glass and clinks*

Cheers!!!

KO!

10 Comments

  1. Jay March 8, 2019 at 5:42 am

    It’s funny, I absolutely detest it when there’s bad driving and once you pass by, the driver will say when, Na woman ma’am. Biko what does that even mean??? So women have the sole right (I m not sure this is the word) to drive badly?? Men do same and no one goes oh, he’s a man.. Anyway, I m grateful that women are stepping up and out and breaking glass, aluminum and wood ceilings… 😂.

    I would have loved to be on the all female crew flight… Pele for the shaking.. So true about conditioning your mind, sooo true.. Alright.. happy IWD to you.. Xoxo.

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    1. Kemi O - Site Author March 12, 2019 at 10:36 am

      Thanks Jay for being so consistent!!! And yes to more women stepping up and being totally badass! The more, the stronger!!!

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  2. AMA Psalmist March 8, 2019 at 9:25 am

    I just wanna say I’ve saved “System 1” picture. Happy IWD!!! Cheers to strong women breaking these steroetypes everyday!

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    1. Kemi O - Site Author March 12, 2019 at 10:34 am

      Hahahahahahaha!!! Don’t let my enemies use you o, Lol..

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  3. Nnenna Fakoya-Smith March 8, 2019 at 9:54 am

    Hahaha! Thanks for always being honest, Kemi! It’s sad that we are all victims of “down grading” our women folks…I no go lie I have been one of them. But I don dey repent. Lol! Glad you were able to take pictures with those phenomenal women. Looking forward to the day I experience an all female crew flight *fingers crossed*

    Happy International Day, Kemi *blows kisses*

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    1. Kemi O - Site Author March 12, 2019 at 10:33 am

      Hahahahaha! Halleluyah for repentance o! You, my dear, are a whole fireball of inspiration and I celebrate you and the pioneering, trail-blazing feats you are accomplishing!!!

      All female crew coming through in Jesus name! Take it! Hahahaha

      *blowing kisses right back*

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  4. Uyi March 8, 2019 at 8:11 pm

    All the things i’d give to see an all female flight crew! To be very honest, gender stereotype first hit me when I started working, and I was shocked to my bones!
    I have never undermined myself when it comes to doing things because I am a woman (very absurd). My family has very little boys who came later than the females. So ALL the females did everythannggg like normal, because it is normal people!
    No gender bias at all!

    We sure have a long way to go when it comes to breaking this glass ceiling!

    This years’ IWD was an absolute thrill! And I couldn’t be any happier!

    You are one of my inspirations ! Happy International Women’s Day Kemi! x

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    1. Kemi O - Site Author March 12, 2019 at 10:32 am

      AWww – thank you Uyi! *e-hugs*

      I agree that there is still some way to go in achieving parity but awareness is step 1. I can assure you that there are people who don’t even see this as a problem so our work is cut out for us. That said, we all should continue doing excellent work so that gender becomes a non-issue.

      Glad you had a good time this IWD. It was the reverse for me – most quiet celebration ever – but the celebration of female awesomeness is an all day, every day affair!

      Thanks for stopping by – xoxo

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  5. Ini March 9, 2019 at 6:52 am

    Mehn, that kind of thinking does actually happens to us oh. I have caught myself in that place and consciously made up my mind no to do so again.

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    1. Kemi O - Site Author March 12, 2019 at 10:24 am

      So so true!! But you are already making progress in the right direction – awareness and then a personal conscious decision to change our ways. So help us God!!!

      I celebrate your honesty 🙂

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