Helllllooooo!!! Ki lon pop? What’s popping? How are you doing? It has been a while since my last post, but since I promised one post per month and May has not ended, we are still alright, right? I knew you would understand – chop kiss! 😊

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Speaking of my last post, whoosh! The comments and reshares were quite overwhelming in a good way. I was so surprised, and the best part was that a lot of people said it was very timely. Oluwa is involved in this blog matter o! I actually wrote a post in my gratitude journal thanking the Holy Spirit for the inspiration to write that post and for making it resonate with a lot of people. Oluwa is always involved and it makes life so exciting!

*now singing* You and I are meant to be together, baby; can’t you see, you are the only one for me!!! I am currently listening to Plantashun Boiz’s album and it is bringing back so many memories. If you don’t know who the Plantashun Boiz are, please dear, you must start calling me Aunty Kemi. T for thanks!

Call me Aunty K for short, lol

I am sure you might have been looking out for my photos and videos from y Easter in Jordan. *sigh* Brethren, Jordan did not happen o! The story is not very long; we were denied our visas because we are Nigerians. Going into details will just give me “sifia“chest pain again so I will not bother. However, I have to commend Naija Nomads for pulling every string possible to make it happen. However, the strings were not long enough just because we were Nigerians. To say I was disappointed would be a gross understatement – I mean Jordan was supposed to be Country 40 and just a whole vibe. We had planned to go to the ancient city of Petra (which is one of the 7 New Wonders of the World) and even sleep in bubble tents in the desert. The itinerary was LIT and the group was even LITTER. But all that ‘litness’ was just for the WhatsApp group o, hehehehehehe. It was not to be exported to Jordan, lol.

A few folks went to Lebanon instead (again, shout-out to Naija Nomad for planning an epic alternative trip in less than a week) while the rest of us licked our wounds in Lagos/PH and Abuja, lol. I can’t even remember what I did that weekend except going to watch the incredible Moremi production at Terra Kulture. The awesomeness of the show helped heal my broken heart small sha.

*Sigh*

All the recent visa gymnastics happening to my beloved green passport are just making me weak – from the suspension of drop-box renewal process for the US visa, to Schengen visas now requiring appointments (instead of the previous walk-in style), and Mozambique now being extra about Nigerians getting visas on arrival – it is all just sad! *deep sigh*

Moving on to happier topics, I have been going to a LOT of weddings of late! In the last 6 weeks, I have attended 3 weddings – one wedding every other weekend! It is like it is 2012 again and there is a fresh wave of people getting married.

With the Chairlady of the 2012 Wedding Gang

You know I love LOVE and it is always a privilege to share in the love of my people. As you know, wedding reception parties go on till forever these days, so Sunday mornings have been a struggle. However, your favorite usher has always found a way to ‘gbe body e’ – nobody sent me work to be doing butterfly on Saturday night, lol.

Forever lifting hands -no matter how tired

Last week Monday was rough – I had spent Sunday evening partying with my girl, Stephanie Obi, celebrating the 30th anniversary of her 3rd birthday where I was both MC and hype man. To now arise on Monday was a STRUGGLE! I just wonder how people who drink alcohol can function normally the morning after a party, when ordinary chapman and zanku leave me so exhausted! Please if you have any party recovery tips, please share in the comments section. Thank you!!!

Monday morning struggle face
The enjoyment face the day before, lol

It has not been partying galore all the way o – I have also had some speaking engagements – Lagos Shapers ‘Meet the Leader’ series and the RCCG LP35 Career Fair. It is always a privilege to be asked to come and share and I remain grateful to God for continued relevance. There are a few more speaking engagements coming up.
I have also written articles for both Spark by Business Day (click here to download) and Leading Ladies Africa (click here to read). I have read 3 books – Risk and Return Africa, Love Letter to My Ex and A Petty Trader Driven By Purpose. It seems to be busy season, but God always gives grace! Halleluyah!

The one event I am most proud of is the closet sale I held last weekend. It was a private event for about 20 of my younger friends that I fondly call my aburos (i.e. younger sisters). I had done some spring cleaning at my family house during the elections period (all the curfews and cancelled election days did not go to waste) and decided to give out most of the clothes. I realized that because I lived across 2 places, I had clothes sitting fallow all over the place. To be honest, I did not give away ALL the clothes I packed from my family house, but I would say about 90% of them made it to the closet sale stash. It is not very easy to give away baffs (a.k.a. nice clothes), especially when they still fit and are in top condition. In fact, it is HARD, but I did it!! I will share some of the lessons I learnt from that experience.

Your children/people are always watching. Shout-out to Mama Kemi for being a good role model of the ‘if you have not worn an outfit in 6-9 months, then it does not belong to you anymore’ principle. My mum always gave out clothes that were in great condition, if she had not worn them in 6-9 months. Unfortunately for me, we have never been the same size, so I never benefited from it, but her example registered in my brain. A few times when I still lived at home, we would do spring cleaning together, so she could add my clothes to the stash going to the missionaries. Her example made it easier for me to do the same. Some of the folks who came to the event have decided to do the same for the teenagers in their spheres of influence. So cool!!!

Mama K – my role model

Pay it forward whenever you can. I have been a massive beneficiary of my both my ‘OluwaMama’ and my Aunt/Deputy Mummy’s frequent wardrobe clear-outs. I have saved a ton of money from not having to buy clothes because these angels were steady supplying me baffs. I am a big believer in Matthew 10 vs 8b – ‘Freely you have received; freely give’ and this was my opportunity to pay it forward.

Use your network for the benefit of others. Although a few of my aburos had been raiding my wardrobe for months, hosting a proper event was a way to spread the love to more people and provide a platform for them to meet each other. I believe in the power of strong peer networks and since most of them are in the same stage of life, I felt they would benefit from connecting/networking with one another. I saw meaningful connections being formed and by the end of the event, contact details were being exchanged. That made me so happy! On a lighter note, I think I also needed an excuse to order small chops to my house, hehehehehe.

Just chilling and gisting

It is hard to do big things alone. Even though I had my stash since March, I only got around to executing the event last week. I was trying to do it by myself but just felt overwhelmed every time I thought about it. I would never have pulled it off without my squad of ‘helpers’ – same squad that helped with the 2018 Christmas giveaway. In just about 2 weeks after I shared the idea/vision and assigned tasks, we were able to successfully host the event, yaaay. It is important to have a team that you can work with to execute your ideas. I also leveraged my Karen Ubani Apparel brand ambassador status (hehehe) to buy some items from their clearance stock and those items moved like hot agege bread. The ‘helpers’ that were helping to sort and tag the clothes wanted to even buy everything before the party started, lol.

Half of the squad – thank you my ladies!!!

Tying things to a higher purpose makes you do better. When I initially thought about this closet sale, I was super uncomfortable about charging a token for the items (most of the items were between N1,000 and N7,000). I wanted the aburos to attach some value to what they got but I also didn’t want it to be as if I was broke and now trying to raise money, hehehehehe. So, I let them know that the proceeds would go to a charity of choice. By Monday afternoon, after the tithe (because Oluwa is always involved) and some costs were deducted (the small chops didn’t fall from heaven), we remitted the balance to the Joy Hub – a non-clinical, non-judgmental, non-discriminatory emotional and mental health walk-in centre where young people dealing with depression, trauma, anxiety and thoughts of suicide can access help. If you want to give to the Joy Hub, please visit http://joyinc.xyz/support-the-work.

We all know how important the issue of tackling mental health is, so this was our little contribution to the cause. I know that my sales girl swag was 10x more because I knew the sales were for a higher purpose and not just for my pocket. You should have seen me recommending outfits and styling people like my life depended on it.

The closet sale was a huge success; people shopped, networked and I got to share some personal experience through a totally unplanned and informal Q&A session. There was also a bit of a prophetic prayer session towards the end because Oluwa is always INVOLVED!

Happy people with their goodies!!!

If you know you have more clothes than necessary, maybe you should consider doing a closet sale too. Even for those of you who think you don’t have enough clothes, if your waist line and your baffs are not on the same level anymore, maybe you should also consider doing a closet sale (about 20% of the clothes in the sale were in this category, lol). If you are relocating to Canada, do a closet sale (you won’t need all your local champion baffs in Canada, lol).

You need to get rid of the old to make space for the new! The same day I did the closet sale, I got 2 new outfits gifted to me! Coincidence? I don’t think so.

One of the new outfits I got – thank you again Ebun 🙂

Alright, I think we are mostly caught up on what has been going on since I last posted. I am gathering the ginger to do the MBA post (Holy Spirit, please breathe on my brain) and I am looking forward to sharing it with you all soon. In the meantime, please let me know what topics you want me to write about in the comment section.

Shout-out to the best sibling and housemate ever for putting up with my party, lol

Testimony time – one of my closest aburos got a fully funded scholarship to attend the school of her dreams! I use her as a point of contact for everyone trusting God for such a miracle – I look forward to reading/hearing your own testimonies shortly in Jesus name! Amen!

Stay blessed everyone, stay joyful (despite all the higi-haga in the land) and stay hydrated, lol.

Hugs,
Kemi

39 Comments

  1. Olufisayo Adeleke May 30, 2019 at 4:50 am

    I looove the easy breezy happiness of this post.
    And I love all the lessons…hope to practice them as much as I can. Sorry about the Jordan trip(and sorry to everyone who was supposed to go who is seeing this)…God will compensate you with a trip 10 times bigger!!!

    PDA Alert – thank you for being an amazing daughter of Zion Aunty K and thank you for sharing yourself (special shout out to Cheddy Cairo and Simstar)

    As per subsequent posts – will love to see the MBA post and a post about boy – girl relationships and healthy living too!

    Kisses, hugs and credit alerts!

    P.S. – nobody fine pass you

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    1. Kemi O - Site Author May 30, 2019 at 11:17 am

      Baby boo!! To think we met in the comments section and now you are my special aburo!! Love you girl!!!

      Thank you for your kind words.. God will give you grace to practice them – after all, He is the one at work in us to will and to do His purpose.

      Re MBA post – okurrrrr! I don’t think there is any escaping this anymore. On relationships, *coughs* Hehehehe. Not sure I am super qualified to speak about this but in the mean time, I just finished reading a book that might be useful. Make a plan to pick up soon, okay?

      Hugs and even bigger credit alerts,
      KO!

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  2. BE May 30, 2019 at 5:19 am

    As usual, great write up. Don’t worry, Jordan will fall too.

    Moremi was a great show. anything done by BAP is usually the bomb. However I can’t say same for some other productions by external producers when they use terrakulture. I can’t forget one disastrous one I saw 2 years ago.

    I’m up for closet sale/giveaway too. I will need to do more though.. I’ve also learnt to give my valued possessions( to break my attachment to it) in addition to the things I don’t use too. Though not because I want them back, somehow, God gives it back. Papisco will just call me and dash me some lovely things. Lol.

    Well done again for being a great example.

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    1. Kemi O - Site Author May 30, 2019 at 11:21 am

      Lol @ Jordan will fall. Let the whole country not fall o.. Let the visa just come so we can actually go to the country, lol.. But yeah – Amen!

      Moremi was amazing! BAP is amazing! She is releasing her first film soon – I hope it is equally amazing sha.

      I like what you do with giving valued possessions.. I do that from time to time.. especially with shoes (I obviously don’t have a lot of valuesdpossessions, hehehehehe). Please introduce me to this your Papisco – maybe he can help me too, hahahaha..

      Thanks again for coming through – I appreciate you!

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  3. FOTO May 30, 2019 at 6:07 am

    Akemokemo,
    Lovely post here. Thanks for always sharing.

    Many a times, I just declutter & give out for a cause. I may consider a closet sale sometime 😘.

    Not to worry, since Oluwa is always involved, Jordan & others will fall in place soon, the visa shenanigans notwithstanding.

    I particularly love the part where you got new baffs after the spring cleaning… that’s what happens to gives. It shall be given unto you in return.

    Remain ever blessed Sissy, much love

    😍😘

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    1. Kemi O - Site Author May 30, 2019 at 11:23 am

      Sisterllllyyy,

      Amen and Amen to all things falling in place! Amen!!

      You are right – God is faithful and His principles are unbreakable!

      Please invite me to your next de-cluttering session o – I am sure there is some jewelery with my name on it, hehehehe.

      God bless you always!!

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  4. Folakemi Odesola May 30, 2019 at 9:38 am

    Hey Catherine, I enjoyed reading and I learnt many deep lessons. Thanks for always sharing and giving of yourself.

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    1. Kemi O - Site Author May 30, 2019 at 11:24 am

      Adrenaline mi!!! Thank you again for inviting me to wedding 2 – kisses!!

      And of course, thank you for coming over, reading and commenting so kindly.

      Love you plenty!!

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  5. Vin_L May 30, 2019 at 9:54 am

    As always, I enjoyed every line!
    Thanks so much for sharing your experiences with us.

    I’m totally in when it comes to clearing out my closet. When I was in uni, I’d give out items (provisions and foodstuff inclusive) at the end of every session to cleaners just so they could give their children and sell the balance to reduce their financial burdens.

    I always felt lighter. Though times have changed, good habits die hard. I still give out at random (gateman, orphanages or wherever there’s an announcement for items being needed)

    As for the testimony, I tap into it!!! Application season will be upon us shortly.

    Looking forward to your next post!

    🤗

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    1. Kemi O - Site Author May 30, 2019 at 11:28 am

      Ameeeeen to your own testimony coming through soon!!!

      So inspired by how long you have been doing this – God bless you o! And I hope you know that rendering help to people who cannot repay you directly is the best kind of giving to God. So, watch out – your harvest is nigh!

      Next post will come, soon #nopressure.

      Thanks for stopping by!!

      xoxo

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  6. Jay May 30, 2019 at 9:56 am

    Kemsco, as usual wonderful piece, what did we do to Jordan kwa? Its sad to know that holding a green passport isnt always a blessing, we only pray that the situation improves and we grow as a country. Epele ma. Ma suukun mo! Meanwhile, i saw all your dancing at Steph’s birthday on IG o, weydone ma. We see you.

    I really commend your effort in giving back and paying it forward especially with the speaking engagements you get called for and the closet sale/networking event for your aburos. I also really admire that you gave for a cause very dear to my heart – Mental health. I m sure the people at JoyHub are grateful. i most especially like how you make your stories so relate-able such that we can learn a thing or two from them. Keep up the great job.

    We thank Oluwa for this post and we look forward to reading some more from you FREQUENTLY… lol.
    XOXO

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    1. Kemi O - Site Author May 30, 2019 at 11:29 am

      Hahahha.. Please why are you shouting the FREQUENTLY now? Ehn? Lol

      Thanks Joy! How you still come here to drop a comment like you are seeing the post for the first time is just amazing. Thank you for all you do for me. I deeply appreciate you sis!

      And Amen to Oluwa sorting out Nigeria – Amen!

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  7. Becca May 30, 2019 at 12:54 pm

    Finally we get a post😁.

    I was so disappointed when i heard about Jordan, got me doubting the worth of the green passport tbh.

    Welldone on the closet sales and Joyhub. As usual, always something to takeout when i read from you.

    Thank you for sharing and inspiring us to do more and better.

    Btw, you look so luuuusssssh girl😍

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    1. Kemi O - Site Author May 30, 2019 at 2:50 pm

      Beccccccaa!! So nice of you to swing by these streets!

      Lol @ finally we get a post – haba! Am I that bad? Please dear, just be managing me like that with love, you hear? Lol

      Jordan was such a let-down but we keep it moving! Make sadness no injure person, lol.

      The lusssshness is the GLORY of God o!! Thank you for your kind words – I am glad that you are inspired to do better, so please, when are you inviting me to your own closet sale? hehehehehe

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  8. Tomi May 30, 2019 at 12:59 pm

    Hey Kemi,

    Nice write up and really like your writing style, so so easy to read. I liked the fact that you’ve put oluwa at the centre of everything too.

    So sorry to here about the cancellation of the trip. As we use to say, every disappointment is a blessing, the blessing will unfold soon.

    As regards subsequent posts, writing on time management might not be a bad idea, because it looks like you have more than 24 hours. Another idea would be writing on how to articulate your thoughts in writing and speaking. However, these ideas shouldn’t stop the MBA post o! I’m sure there would be tons of lessons to learn from the post especially for those of us going back to school this September.

    Looking forward to your next post

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    1. Kemi O - Site Author May 30, 2019 at 2:55 pm

      Yaaaaaay to going back to school. Congratulations!!! I hope it is a truly rewarding experience for you.

      Thank you so much for the post ideas – I am taking notes. That time management one ehn? HAHAHAHAHA. We shall see! I like the twist you have put to the MBA one though – so no just the application process but also the actual school experience! Those are 2 different posts for 2 audiences. Thank you so much. I shall come correct for you, I promise!

      And yes – OLUWA is the One from which everything flows, so it is hard for that not to reflect in my writing 🙂

      Congrats again on school – I promise to write one post for you on that as your going-away gift, hehehe

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  9. Dara May 30, 2019 at 1:45 pm

    Ever inspiring Kemi!

    Sometimes I wonder how you get all this ever Inspiring things that you do but then again I get it….Oluwa is always involved.

    Keep Inspiring and paying it forward.

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    1. Kemi O - Site Author May 30, 2019 at 2:56 pm

      Daralicious!! Thank you so much sis!

      You answered the question already o – OLUWA is involved!!

      Thank you for always stopping by and leaving encouraging words. God bless you dear!

      xoxo

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  10. Onize May 30, 2019 at 2:37 pm

    Reading your posts always makes me feel like I am gisting with you. Thanks for always sharing with us, there is always a lesson to take home with.

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    1. Kemi O - Site Author May 30, 2019 at 2:57 pm

      Hahahaha! That is the plan! In my head, you are sitting across me and I am gisting with you, lol. I am glad it comes across that way. No energy to be doing deep artistic literature writing, lol.

      Thank you for your comment!!! kisses!

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  11. Seun.O May 30, 2019 at 4:48 pm

    Catherine! Reading your “monthly” stories make me feel like I’m not missing out on gist 😁 There’s always a lesson to learn or reinforce. Giving is always good and though we may not all be able to do closet sales, would be good if you could drop names of some shelters or organizations people could donate clothes and other items too. The part about clothes not fitting our waistlines got me 🙈 I guess it’s time to stop wishing to lose weight, and start giving those beloved “baffs” away.
    Love you girl ❤️
    P.S. Now I’m not vexing about the closet sale anymore 😂

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    1. Kemi O - Site Author June 3, 2019 at 6:33 pm

      Hi sweetie,

      Thanks for your kind words… Will think about shelters and organizations that always need stuff and create a list.

      Thank you for not vexing anymore – God bless you for your forgiveness!!! kizzess

      Love you too!

      Reply
  12. Ada Lemeh May 30, 2019 at 5:45 pm

    Oh no!!! How did I miss this?

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    1. Kemi O - Site Author June 3, 2019 at 6:34 pm

      Kizzessss!!!

      Reply
  13. Ifeyugha May 30, 2019 at 7:42 pm

    Lovely post! Why was I not invited for this closet sale to sit at one corner and consume hot tiny puffpuff?

    Owo mi loke tapping into the testimony of fully funded scholarship in a choice school. Amen! Alleluia!

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    1. Kemi O - Site Author June 3, 2019 at 6:36 pm

      Lol – Ife, don’t let me expose you here o!!!

      I join you in screaming Ameeeen to the fully funded scholarship – Amen!!!!

      xoxo

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  14. Chinwe May 31, 2019 at 2:00 am

    Hallelujah o! Been waiting for this. Thank God for mothers who encourage us to do “give away” so you have space for more good thgs. As usual, I felt like we were jest gisting. Ku Se o! May you always be inspired to write the word in season. (Now lemme go n read from Jan as I have been awol this year)

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    1. Kemi O - Site Author June 3, 2019 at 6:43 pm

      Ameeen to being inspired to write the word in season – Ameen!!

      Thank you for being patient with me and I am glad you enjoyed this our gist. And yes, thank God for mothers who instill the right habits in us by fire by force!

      Oya go and read o!

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  15. Tolu O. May 31, 2019 at 1:46 pm

    Ms (would soon join your aburos that call you Aunty) Kemi!!!!!!!!!!!
    Thank you for all you do! and thank you for all of who you are!
    Thank you for being a consistent shining light!
    I promise, I can never get enough of it!
    First of all, I really wish I was at this closet sale because I’ve always planned to wear the kind of stuff you wear in the nearest future and would have certainly bought myself a new dress! *sobs*
    Also, I’m cracked up at how Nchedoo cashed out even with a box!….hahahaa and how did she and Busayo find something to buy considering their height….lol!
    I should actually comment more on your blog posts…I read every single one of them and get so busy internalizing all of it, I forget to say how much it has really blessed me or how much it means to me….plus the very valid fear of being too deep in public or expressing written PDA..lol
    And Tomi is rightttt,all extraordinary beings like you seem to have more than 24 hours, so yes a post on managing time in the realest, purest way would doo,also a post on how not have a thing for buying the best books in the world then never getting to read them(real struggle!) and definitely…a post on grooming emotion-healthy, long-lasting relationships with a guy would be ones to more than look forward too!
    You see, probably the longest comment out here! *sigh*

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    1. Kemi O - Site Author June 3, 2019 at 7:13 pm

      Hahahahaha! Tolu o! I love long comments, so no need to sigh or be shy 🙂

      Thank you for your love – I am feeling it real hard. I have taken note of all your post ideas. That one of not buying books that will not be read? I am sitting squarely on that table, lol. What I do now is to decide not to buy any more books until I have made some progress with the ones I have. I think there is some psychological kick that comes from buying books – like I feel like a deep person when I do that, hehehehehe.

      Apologies about the closet sale o.. Dont worry, you will inherit some from free very soon. Or even buy better baffs sef! Nchedo actually brought some stuff in that small box but she did not leave empty-handed either. She got some skirts that were midi for me but sit right on her knees. Busayo’s own was the testimony of the day. I think she came just for trips but believe it or not, she did not leave empty-handed. When she wore her dress and came out, it was a celebration! We all shouted and squealed for joy, hahahaha!

      Anyhoos, thank you for stopping by and FINALLY dropping a comment. I know I owe you a reply to your email – I shall go and do it now. Thank you for all the kind words too!

      xoox

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  16. Rita May 31, 2019 at 3:02 pm

    Hi Kemi
    I have only admired who you are and what you do. I have a tiny tweeny request, please can I be among your aburos or rather can you be my mentor.

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    1. Kemi O - Site Author June 3, 2019 at 7:15 pm

      Thanks Rita..Aburo is easier than mentor! 🙂

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  17. Kikelomo Awolowo June 9, 2019 at 1:43 pm

    Dear Kemi, your post is beautiful. I really liked the ripple effect of the closet sale. A closet sale turned to a Networking event, Prophetic prayer meeting, Donations to further NGO work & awareness for the NGO. I’m so inspired to just bless and leave the rest to Oluwa.

    I’ve admired you for a while on IG, on my bucket list is to travel round Africa & the world. I hope I get to do it like you’re doing.

    Cheers

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    1. Kemi O - Site Author June 11, 2019 at 1:46 pm

      Hi Kike,

      Thanks for stopping by, and thank you for your kind words. Hahaha, indeed, the closet sale became many things! Please don’t forget to invite me to yours o.

      I hope your Africa travel dreams come true real soon! Keep us posted on your journey and have fun while at it.

      xoxo

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  18. Lord_babajay June 25, 2019 at 3:34 pm

    Wonderful travel blog Kemi. Saw your profile on LinkedIn, checked out your blog and read your funny ‘how you nearly missed your flight post’ then this post.

    Quite an interesting read.

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    1. Kemi O - Site Author July 23, 2019 at 4:42 pm

      Thank you very much for stopping by! I am not sure if my LinkedIn prepared you for the blog but glad you came through!!!!

      Come back again soon 🙂

      Reply
  19. D'champ July 10, 2019 at 2:25 pm

    Aunty K. This is awesome lol. I literally laughed all through the post. Sorry about the Jordan trip😢. I’d love to send you an email, if it’s OK by you ma’am.

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    1. Kemi O - Site Author July 23, 2019 at 4:41 pm

      Sure – please send through! Looking forward to reading from you.

      Reply
      1. d'champ July 25, 2019 at 9:34 am

        Oh wow. I’m just seeing this. May I have your email ma’am? Thank you.

        Reply

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